Okcupid is not a dating site are you dating or friends with benefits
The site as an absolute hive of polyamorous kinksters, furries and other assorted people at the odd end of the dating site pool.
As few people actually bother deleting their profile, part of the torment of using OKC is wondering whether the person you've messaged is ignoring you or simply met a lovely bloke six months ago.
And it's here where you encounter the second major drawback. Free sites are packed full with spammers and scammers and people looking for casual sex.
Even if that latter category sounds appealing to you, remember that people blithely (or desperately) looking for a squeeze between the sheets can put more earnest daters off.
One woman sent me an email with a five point list of things she wanted to do to me.
Long story short, it involved going to her sex dungeon and being locked in a cage while she choked me and her husband relieved himself on me.