How to talk to women on online dating sites
They don’t have to deal with their own sexual fears or admit any of their deep, dark secrets.” A person who relentlessly pursues you online but never seals the deal in person may also be married or involved with someone else, Irwin warns.
“It could be someone who’s bored in a relationship and doesn’t know how to recapture that honeymoon phase, so he or she is constantly reaching out and enjoying the fantasy of being with someone else,” she says.
But the chemistry was uncannily amazing online.” Damien P., a 44-year-old marketing representative from New York, says he thinks both the sheer number of people using online dating sites — plus all the bells and whistles now available — contribute to delays when it comes to meeting people face-to-face.
“I think many people just become content with endlessly surfing and comparing people,” he says.
“Some people are really just into the fantasy of a mate,” Irwin says.
“Then, this person doesn’t have to look at the reality of his or her own situation.” recently asked the question: What’s the average email exchange time between online daters before arranging an in-person date?
Out of the poll’s more than 4,000 respondents, 30 percent said they emailed back and forth for three or more weeks before meeting, 43 percent emailed for one or two weeks before getting together in person, and nearly 28 percent sent out two or three emails at the most before making a date.
But while the growing number of emails, texts and flirty IMs whet your appetite for a face-to-face date, the object of your growing affection seems content with your ever-blossoming virtual relationship. “It’s really weird,” says Dan N., a 29-year-old comedian from Manhattan.
“The thing is, I would imagine that if the person responded to you, there would be some sort of interest in getting together. I’ll be emailing back and forth with a girl and I’ll ask, ‘Hey, do you want to get together for coffee or a drink? Or suddenly, she’s really busy this week and next week, but maybe she can do it in two weeks.