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You don’t need to consult a rabbi to figure out that being a single woman of a certain age in the Orthodox Jewish community is no piece of babka.
While 27 is the median age for an American woman’s first marriage, in many Orthodox circles — even modern ones — a single woman is considered over the hill by her late 20s.
“We feel the onus is on us,” said Naomi, a 42-year-old teacher at a modern Orthodox day school outside Manhattan.
“It’s almost like the [matchmakers] are desperate to get the women married because there are so many of them.
We don’t sense they tell the men to get a better profile picture or do this, do that.
It’s more like ‘oh, the women are desperate for you, so it’s okay, you can do whatever you want.’” However, the bigger issue for a modern Orthodox single woman may not be her relationship status, but how she is treated by her community because of it. If I mention a recipe, they’ll just ignore me,” Naomi said.
She described how, at her parents’ synagogue, “very rarely do the young married couples talk to me.” Toby, a 38-year-old psychotherapist in Manhattan, said she suspects she isn’t afforded the same privacy and respect that married congregants are.Weiss-Greenberg warned: “If they’re going to make people who are single, for whatever reason they are, feel different or less than, then they’re missing out on all they could be contributing.” READ MORE: 2017 will be my year of dating friends I met my fiancee on Tinder. Be part of this group if you want to get invited to several Montreal Jewish Singles events like speed dating, wine and cheeses, cooking classes, game nights...“You’re also taught you’re supposed to love Shabbat, and I don’t.” Naomi said she has sensed that, if couples were to invite her for Shabbat, they would feel pressured to have other single people come, too. “They could invite me, but then they don’t know who to invite me with, so, I think they just don’t,” she said. At best, single women have less of an incentive to be active participants if they are not viewed as such. At worst, they leave the community, as some women said their single friends have.